Parents are responsible for their young
children. Babies and little kids need to be taken care of in every sense. But as
the child grows, she will begin to take care of herself. When your
responsible for someone, you are taking care of them. Mary is trying to
be responsible for her man and it isn't working.
Ideally, when someone becomes an adult they are
truly responsible for themselves. Part of that responsibility is understanding
the need to be responsible to other adults.
When I'm responsible to...
When I'm acting in a way I'm
responsible to you, I owe you the truth. If we have an agreement,
like meeting for coffee or something as big as a business deal, I need to keep my agreements with
you unless we agree to change them or something happens that makes it impossible.
If I make a mistake, break the agreement somehow, I owe you a sincere
apology, owning my part of the breach.
If
Mary pays her guy's rent, she's actually treating him like a baby... she's being
responsible for him. She's dis-empowering him, or enabling him.
Refusing to pay his rent would be the responsible action because it puts
him in the position of having to take responsibility for himself.
Telling him truthfully, when he's sober, how his drinking makes her feel
would be being responsible to him.
What
would the world be like if we all started to be responsible to rather than
responsible for other adults?
Love, peace and
abundance,
