It’s not always easy to follow, as you probably already know.
In fact, I don’t know anyone with any time in Program who hasn’t experienced resistance and reluctance to going to meetings. Typically the approach offered as help by others is to just bear down and go to a meeting no matter what. That’s an approach that can work.
There is, however, a gentler way that may last longer, and that’s to trick yourself to going to a series of meetings. Here are four ways you can trick yourself into going to a meeting:
Volunteer for some task at the meeting – agree to become secretary or treasurer or cleanup crew or coffee maker or time keeper or literature person or greeter or take some other position in or at the meeting to help yourself get there every week, or at least more often. I’ve done this fairly often and had it work well. I tend to keep my word so agreeing to take care of literature for three months means I’ll get to that meeting on a regular basis.
Arrange for a regular meeting before the meeting, or after – some programs suggest things like pressure relief and/or action meetings. I find these work best when I do them on a regular basis. Agreeing to have or give such a meeting before or after a meeting is another way to help yourself get to the meeting. And it doesn’t have to be a program related meeting either.
Make a deal with a program friend – agree with a program friend, or even with your sponsor or sponsee to attend a particular meeting every week for a month, or two months, etc. We do love to please people and to keep our agreements and this trick can help both of you.
Bribe yourself – promise yourself some reward or treat that you can only have if and after you’ve attended a meeting. It might be a food reward, or a trip to library or to the book store or a coffee shop – you get the idea. Getting in the habit of rewarding ourselves isn’t a bad habit to get into, and it’s a totally legitimate way to reinforce a positive habit. Just make sure you’re not eating the wrong thing or too much, or spending too much money as a reward.
Usually the resistance to going to meetings will pass if you give yourself a way to get to meetings in spite of not wanting to go.
Your turn. How do you make sure you get to meetings? Do you have ways of tricking yourself into going? We’d like to hear about you ideas.
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