I’m Uneasy With Two ‘Official’ Definitions Of Recovery

Last week I wrote about my personal definition of recovery. Today I was poking around and found two  semi-official defintions over on Buddy T’s site at About.com in a post called Working Definition of Recovery Developed. SAMHSA & Betty Ford According to the post the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) spent over a year […]

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What Is 12 Step Recovery?

We talk about 12 Step Recovery, but rarely discuss what that actually might mean. Here’s my take on it at the moment: Letting go of the addiction First of all it means stopping the addictive substance or behavior. That’s most obvious when it comes to alcohol and other drugs. Every day I don’t drink or […]

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So… What Can You Change?

Several years ago someone I thought was a potential client told me they had checked and one of my references was totally bogus. It isn’t and I asked where they had gotten the misinformation. They never replied. I told my best friend about it when happened and just today she asked if I’d ever been […]

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Returning Fully To Life

Recently  I heard someone with well over a decade of recovery say something like “I don’t know if I dare admit I’m successful.” As I listened to the rest of her share I realized she really was, at least in that moment, afraid if she said out loud that her life was working well she […]

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Anger Or Resentment? Yes, There’s A Huge Difference

Every now and again someone in a 12 Step meeting will say something like “I don’t dare get angry because I’ll slip.” If the group has some old timers, one of them is sure to point out that there’s no way we humans can avoid anger and we’re not even supposed to. It’s resentments that […]

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12 Step Recovery Slogans – Easy Does It

You see the slogan, ‘Easy Does It’ on the wall of almost every 12 Step meeting, no matter what addiction or behavior that meeting addresses. Like so many things in the history of 12 Step Program, the exact history of the slogans is a bit murky. Affording to the Alcoholics Anonymous website, when Ruth Hock, a non-alcoholic, who […]

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Why I Qualify For Underearners Anonymous

I am a periodic underearner. I go through periods in my life when my writing pays well, I stop debting, get pretty much caught up and begin to live a comfortable life with reasonable income and expenses. Debtors Anonymous helped me learn to keep track of my money and begin to ask, and get, what […]

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Addiction Cravings Can Hit Any Time

I let go of nicotine completely almost six years through phone meetings at Nicotine-Anonymous.org. I had smoked for 40 years and that first two weeks was just awful. I barely trusted myself to go to the store for food. And as one member put it, I ate all of California during the first couple of […]

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12 Step Recovery Slogans – Keep Coming Back

You hear it at almost every 12 Step meeting and even almost every time two or more 12 steppers meet to talk. “Keep coming back,” and often, “Keep coming back, it works!” or even “Keep coming back! It works – if you work it.” Obviously the message is to urge folks to keep coming back […]

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12 Step Recovery = Taking Responsibility

Occasionally I’ll hear someone criticize 12 Step Programs. One complaint about Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, and the myriad of other 12 Step recovery programs is they somehow help those recovering avoid taking personal responsibility. That’s just so much BS, to put it bluntly. My guess is the person, who is often a professional of one sort or another, […]

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